I tend to feel very reflective on Easter weekend. Perhaps because it’s spring, or perhaps because every Easter seems to mark a milestone in my life.
The past two Easters I’ve been in the Bay area, and enjoyed that long drive across the state alone–giving me time for reflection (I do love me a roadtrip!). But this year I’ll be with the kids again, which makes me pretty happy. Gameboy is home from college and I never do seem to have enough time with Catgirl. We’ll also be with a group of Friends–sitting in silence and eating wholesome food and enjoying the mountains.
I’ll be bringing along my good camera, to capture a few photos of daffodils as I wandel around in the woods (that’s dutch for “walk”–isn’t that a great word?), and will post photos of this year’s Pysanky eggs as soon as they are revealed.
What I wrote on Easter weekend in 2012:
Last Easter weekend was momentous for me–during my long drive to northern California I did a lot of important thinking, and made some significant decisions about what I wanted from my future. To see the consequences of decisions made that weekend play out in the year since, is a remarkable thing.
Though I no longer celebrate a Christian holiday at this time of year, it remains an important time for renewal for me. A time for daffodils and decision-making and peace.
Image above is of the Pysanky eggs that Catgirl creates each year while at the Quaker Easter retreat. That she spends her Easter holiday among F/friends makes me happy, even if it’s a time that she spends with her father and not with me.
Reading Andrea’s post about busy-ness reminded me of a change I made awhile ago. I decided that I wouldn’t reply to people that I was “busy” or “too busy” when they made a request. Because it seemed that I’d fallen into a pattern of using that excuse to get out of doing things that weren’t important to me. Instead, I started replying with a more specific response, either letting them know what was precluding me from attending their party/concert/kaffeeklatsch or explaining that I couldn’t help them because I had another responsibility that was taking priority at the moment.
Doing so gave me the opportunity to affirm my priorities, such as replying that I couldn’t attend an event because I wanted to spend time with my daughter that night, or I couldn’t join in on gathering because it was a morning that I needed to be out on the ocean, getting some exercise. I’d like to think that it made my relationships with my friends and associates more authentic, too. Because I was able to honestly respond to their requests with an affirmative “Yes, I will attend,” or a “No, I have another engagement that will take precedence on my calendar.” I’m not sure if that was how it was received, but it made me feel better than just the canned reply of “oh, I can’t–too busy.”
But, additionally, I have been trying to take more time for friends lately. A chat in front of the fireplace, taking a yoga class together, or even just a brief phone call. I don’t want to ever be “too busy” for friends, and it feels good to make time with them as a higher-priority item on my list of possibilities.