{"id":1194,"date":"2007-11-26T18:21:00","date_gmt":"2007-11-26T18:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/janaremy.com\/?p=1194"},"modified":"2007-11-26T18:21:00","modified_gmt":"2007-11-26T18:21:00","slug":"my-names","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.janaremy.com\/pilgrimsteps\/2007\/11\/26\/my-names\/","title":{"rendered":"my names"},"content":{"rendered":"<style type=\"text\/css\">.flickr-photo { border: solid 2px #000000; }.flickr-yourcomment { }.flickr-frame { text-align: left; padding: 3px; }.flickr-caption { font-size: 0.8em; margin-top: 0px; }<\/style>\n<div class=\"flickr-frame\">\t<a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/pilgrimgirl\/505396789\/\" title=\"photo sharing\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/farm1.static.flickr.com\/212\/505396789_6a54b83855.jpg\" class=\"flickr-photo\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a><br \/>\t<span class=\"flickr-caption\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/pilgrimgirl\/505396789\/\">golden touch<\/a>, originally uploaded by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.flickr.com\/people\/pilgrimgirl\/\">pilgrimgirl<\/a>.<\/span><\/div>\n<p class=\"flickr-yourcomment\">\tOver the years several friends have asked me why I took my husband&#8217;s name rather than keeping my maiden name.  I have a simple answer: because I liked my husband&#8217;s surname better than mine.  My maiden name is German and rather rough-sounding.  It is an unusual name (I&#8217;ve never met another person with the name that&#8217;s not in my family) and is hard to spell.  John&#8217;s last name is French, it&#8217;s short, and it&#8217;s easily spelled.  So changing my name had little to do with any kind of feminist politics&#8211;it was just a desire to adopt a more aesthetically-pleasing name.<\/p>\n<p>Nowadays, I change my name depending on what I&#8217;m doing.  For writing in the academic world, I use my first name, maiden name and John&#8217;s surname.  However, for all other purposes I use my first name, middle name (not maiden) and John&#8217;s surname.  The latter form is my legal name.  <\/p>\n<p>John and I have two sets of friends who changed their surname entirely when they married.  One couple adopted a name that&#8217;s a hybrid of both of their former surnames.  Another chose a word that they liked and used that as their surname.  Had John and I known either of these folks before we married, I&#8217;m sure that we would have discussed adopting a new surname.  As it stands, though, we are all pleased with the current surname.  However I won&#8217;t be hurt if my children choose to change or alter their names in the future.  The ability and power to name oneself is huge.  I can&#8217;t begrudge them that choice!<\/p>\n<p>In high school my friends all called me &#8220;Yawna&#8221; rather than Jana.  It was fun to have a nickname and an identity that&#8217;s linked to that particular time of my life.  <\/p>\n<p>Not too long after John and I married we (rather spontaneously) started calling each other by different names.  To John I am Dilly, not Jana.  I love that this is a name that only he calls me, and whenever I hear him say it, I go a bit weak in the knees.<\/p>\n<p>Lately I have considered changing my first name.  I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ll really make a change, but it was nice to ponder for a bit.  The desire to change was motivated by the impulse to mark a new self.  I am not the Jana of ten or twenty years ago.  I am new, I am evolving.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>golden touch, originally uploaded by pilgrimgirl. Over the years several friends have asked me why I took my husband&#8217;s name rather than keeping my maiden name. I have a simple answer: because I liked my husband&#8217;s surname better than mine. My maiden name is German and rather rough-sounding. 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